Discipling Your Kids

The Power of Parental Discipleship

As a parent, you have the opportunity to discipline your children. You have 40 hours a week with them. The church spends on average 30–40 hours a year with your kids. That's why it is so important for parents to take advantage of this time and invest spiritually in their homes.

In addition to spending time together as a family doing activities that help build relationships, there are resources available that can help you teach your children about God and His Word:

Tips for Effective Discipleship

  • Pray fervently for your kids.

  • Spend time with them.

  • Equip yourself with the right language to communicate with your children, so that they can understand you and vice versa. This includes listening to podcasts that will help equip you in understand your children better, such as this one.

Making the Most of Your Time

  • Take time to talk to your kids. You may be busy with work, chores, and other responsibilities, but it's important for you to take time out of each day to connect with your children.

  • Ask questions. When you're talking with them, ask them questions about what they did that day or what they learned in school. This will help them feel heard and valued by their parents--and it will also give you an opportunity to learn more about what interests them so that when it comes time for bedtime stories or reading books together (which we'll discuss later), there are things on which both of you can focus together as well.

  • Encourage them to ask questions too! Don't just lecture at length without allowing even a momentary pause for feedback from those who may be listening intently but still have no idea how much longer this lecture might go on before finally ending.

  • Be an example for them: showing respect towards other people shows respect towards yourself first; thus, setting up healthy boundaries between yourself and others is essential not only socially but psychologically as well."

Role of the Church

The role of the church is to support parents in their discipleship journey. You can do this by providing resources, guidance, and encouragement.

The best way to disciple your kids is by engaging with them on a regular basis and helping them grow in their faith through teaching, modeling, and loving them well.

Biblical Advice

Here are some of the most important verses from the Bible that can help you disciple your children.

  • Deuteronomy 6:5-7: "You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. And these words which I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and talk about them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up."

  • Ephesians 6:4: "And fathers [are] to discipline their children in righteousness."

  • Proverbs 22:6: "Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it."

  • Colossians 3:21: "Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord."

Practical Advice

  • Take time to talk to your kids

  • Spend quality time with them.

  • Model the behavior you want to see in your children, both good and bad. If you want them to be kind and generous toward others, then show them how it's done by being kind and generous yourself--and don't just do it when they're watching!

  • Ask questions that will help them learn about life as well as about what's going on in their own lives: "Why did you choose this toy over another one?" or "What was it like for you when Mommy left for work today?"

How to Connect with Your Kids

  • Listen to their stories.

  • Share stories from your own life.

  • Ask questions and engage them in conversation, but don't lecture or preach at them (this will only shut down the conversation).

  • Be honest and open about your own struggles and failures as a parent, so they know that it's okay to make mistakes too!

Teaching with Love and Respect

When you're disciplining your kids, it's important to remember that you're not only teaching them about God and His Word but also modeling how to live out those truths. As a parent, this means that you need to show love and respect for your children--even when they don't deserve it!

When kids feel criticized or judged by their parents, they learn how not to treat others in return. So instead of criticizing or judging your kids' actions or words (or even their appearance), offer encouragement instead: "I'm proud of how hard you worked on this project." Or: "That was an interesting choice of words; I'm glad we could talk about it together." This way they'll know that they can trust what comes out of your mouth because it won't be harsh criticism but rather encouragement based on truth--and who doesn't want more truth in their lives?

Of course, there will still be times when disciplining requires correction; however, even then, the goal should always be love first rather than punishment second (or never). For instance, if one of my children does something wrong, such as hitting another child at school, then I would first try talking through why hitting isn't acceptable behavior before moving on to consequences such as losing recess time until further notice (which might mean no TV either).

The Benefits of Discipleship

  • You'll have a stronger relationship with your kids.

  • You'll have a better understanding of each other.

  • You'll be able to talk about things that are important to both of you, rather than just focusing on the immediate problem at hand (like homework or chores).

  • Your conversations will be more meaningful and impactful because they're based on trust and love rather than fear or anger.

Disciplining your kids is an important part of parenting. It's not just about teaching them how to read and write, it's also about teaching them how to live. As a parent, you have the opportunity to shape the lives of your children by disciplining them with godly values and principles that will help them grow up into godly adults.

As you seek God's wisdom on how best to disciple your children at home, learn and study the Word of the Lord by Clicking here!