Masculinity is Vulnerable and Extremism Kills

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Masculinity is Vulnerable and Extremism Kills

In a world plagued by sin, the idea of masculinity gets distorted. Too often we fall into extremes–either toxic masculinity or fluidity, meaning men can act, dress, or identify as women. But the standard of what masculinity truly is is not based on our perceptions or ideas. Man, being finite, will have a wrong or imperfect view of things if he just relies solely on his knowledge.

In the video, Taylor mentions that anything extreme is bad. Extreme masculinity is toxic and so is extreme femininity. Cory believes that as men, we should be transparent and be able to open up about our feelings. We become vulnerable this way, and some view this as a weakness.


But what better way to check for the perfect example of what masculinity is than to look at the Bible. There we see Jesus Christ, who embodied all that a man should be. He showed resilience in the pursuit of God, gentleness in spirit, and humility in serving others.

Jesus wasn’t afraid to show vulnerable emotions. He wept openly in public (Luke 19:41; John 11:33-36). By following His example, men have someone to imitate in all areas of relationships. There is sacrificial love and meekness. True masculinity treats women with honor, prizes honesty, and fights for the weak and vulnerable.

Since the fruit of the Spirit is what Christ wants all believers to be–both men and women, then that is what real men ought to be. Galatians 5:22-23 says, "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control; against such things, there is no law.” So Biblical masculinity is a picture of love and humble leadership.


Living in a day and age where everyone gets so vocal about what they believe in, some people tend to shun masculinity because they view it as an objectification of women and emotional stoicism–suppressing emotions which may lead to health issues, depression, substance abuse, suicidal tendencies, and even violence and aggression. But that is extreme masculinity. It kills. That is not what the Bible points out as masculinity. Since a lot of people get the idea wrong, they call for removing boundaries and blurring the lines between masculinity and femininity. But that is sin. As Christians, we need to shine Christ's light and not compromise. After all, we already know what is right. Men can be open about their emotions. They can ask for help when needed and show empathy towards others. Men can take responsibility for their actions, admit their mistakes, and apologize for them.

Yes, true masculinity can be open to vulnerability. But that is far from a weakness. On the contrary, that is a strength because self-control and humility are exercised in the process. 

Remember that a real man is rooted in the dedicated imitation of Christ. Colossians 3:13,14 reminds us to "Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience... And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony."

Be proud that God made you a man. So act like one, rise up, man up.

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