7 Days Breaking the Chains of Deception: a Bible-based Devotional on Overcoming Lies That Can Ruin Your Marriage

"The Lie of Infidelity: Overcoming Temptation and Trusting in God's Faithfulness" (Proverbs 5:15-20)

Proverbs 5:15-20 says, "Drink water from your cistern, running water from your well. Should your springs be dispersed abroad, streams of water in the streets? Let them be for yourself alone, and not for strangers with you. Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times, and always be enraptured with her love. For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, and be embraced in the arms of a seductress?"


This passage speaks to the importance of remaining faithful in marriage and the danger of giving in to temptation. The metaphor of a cistern and a well speaks to the idea of nourishing and sustaining ourselves from a source that is reliable and true. When we stray from our spouse and give in to temptation, we are like a thirsty person drinking from a polluted source, rather than a clean and refreshing one. It is not worth the temporary pleasure to risk the long-term consequences and heartache that come with infidelity.


But how do we overcome the temptation to stray? Proverbs 5 offers some helpful guidance. Firstly, it advises us to be content with the love and affection of our spouse. When we are satisfied and fulfilled in our marriage, we are less likely to be tempted by the allure of someone else. Additionally, the passage encourages us to actively cultivate our love and appreciation for our spouse, as this will help to strengthen our commitment and desire to remain faithful.


Another key to overcoming temptation is to recognize the danger of being enraptured by an immoral or seductive person. These individuals may appear attractive and appealing, but they will ultimately lead us down a destructive path. It is important to guard our hearts and minds against such people and to stay focused on the love and commitment we have made to our spouse.


Ultimately, the key to remaining faithful and overcoming temptation is to trust in God's faithfulness. When we turn to Him and seek His guidance and strength, He will help us to resist temptation and remain committed to our spouse. As we trust in Him, we can find the strength and courage to remain faithful, even in the face of temptation.



Prayer:


Dear God,


We confess that we are prone to temptation and can easily stray from the commitment we have made to our spouse. Help us to resist the allure of infidelity and to trust in your faithfulness. Give us the strength and courage to remain faithful, even in the face of temptation. Help us to cultivate a strong and loving relationship with our spouse, and to find contentment and fulfillment in them. We pray for Your protection and guidance in our marriage, and Your wisdom and discernment as we navigate the challenges and temptations that come our way.


This we pray in Jesus’ name, Amen.

"The Lie of Unforgiveness: Choosing to Forgive and Heal in Marriage" (Ephesians 4:31-32)

As Christians, we are called to love and forgive others, just as Christ loved and forgave us (Ephesians 4:32). This call to love and forgiveness is especially important in our marriages, as we seek to honor and respect our spouses, even when they may hurt or disappoint us.


In Ephesians 4:31–32, we are reminded to "get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you."


Choosing to forgive and heal in our marriages can be difficult, especially when we have been deeply hurt. It's natural to want to hold onto our anger and resentment and to seek revenge or retribution for the harm that has been done to us. But as believers, we are called to rise above these natural tendencies and to follow the example of Christ by showing love and forgiveness to those around us, including our spouses.


Forgiveness is not about denying or minimizing the hurt that has been caused, but rather about choosing to let go of our anger and resentment, and to seek reconciliation and restoration with our spouse. It's about recognizing that, as imperfect humans, we will all make mistakes and hurt those we love at times, and that forgiveness is an essential part of maintaining healthy relationships.


Healing in marriage also requires effort and intentionality. It's not something that happens automatically but rather requires a conscious decision to work through conflicts and misunderstandings and to seek help and support when needed. This might involve seeking counsel from a pastor, mentor, or therapist, as well as taking the time to communicate openly and honestly with our spouse about our feelings and needs.


As you seek to forgive and heal in your marriage, remember that you are not alone. God is with you, and He can provide the strength, wisdom, and guidance you need to navigate even the most difficult challenges. Trust in His love and grace, and seek to follow His leading as you work towards reconciliation and restoration with your spouse.



Prayer:


Dear God,


Thank you for the gift of marriage, and for the opportunity to grow and learn through the challenges and joys of this special relationship. Help us to choose forgiveness and healing in our marriages, and to follow your example of love and grace. Give us the strength and wisdom we need to navigate conflicts and misunderstandings and to seek reconciliation and restoration with our spouses. We trust in Your love and grace and ask for Your guidance and protection as we seek to honor and respect our spouses in all things. 


In Jesus' name, we pray, Amen.

"The Lie of Communication Breakdown: Fostering Openness and Honesty in Marriage" (Proverbs 12:18)

"There is one who speaks like the piercings of a sword, but the tongue of the wise promotes health."


Communication breakdown is a common issue in marriages, and it can have serious consequences for the health and happiness of the relationship. When we are not open and honest with our spouse, misunderstandings, and resentment can arise, leading to bitterness and strife. But when we can communicate openly and honestly, it promotes health and healing in the relationship.


One of the biggest lies we can believe in marriage is that we don't need to communicate openly and honestly. We may think that we can just go about our lives and assume that our spouse knows what we are thinking or feeling. But this simply isn't true. To have a healthy and strong marriage, we must be willing to open up and share our thoughts, feelings, and needs with our spouse.


The Bible has much to say about the importance of open and honest communication in marriage. In Ephesians 4:25, we are told to "speak the truth in love." This means that we should be honest with our spouse, but also be mindful of how we communicate that truth. We should not speak in a way that is hurtful or condemning, but rather with love and respect.


Proverbs 15:1 also reminds us of the importance of a gentle response: "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." In marriage, it is easy for misunderstandings and disagreements to escalate into heated arguments. But when we respond with a gentle answer, it can defuse the situation and prevent anger from escalating.


So how can we foster openness and honesty in our marriages? Here are a few suggestions:


Practice vulnerability: It can be scary to open up and share our deepest thoughts and feelings with our spouse, but vulnerability is crucial for intimacy and connection in marriage. It's important to remember that our spouse is our partner and ally, and they want to understand and support us.


Make time for communication: In today's fast-paced world, it's easy for our schedules to get overwhelmed and for communication to fall by the wayside. But it's important to set aside dedicated time for communication with our spouse, whether that be through regular date nights or simply setting aside time each day to talk.


Seek help if needed: If communication breakdown is a persistent problem in your marriage, it may be helpful to seek the guidance of a trained therapist or counselor. They can provide valuable tools and techniques for improving communication and fostering openness and honesty in your relationship.



Prayer:


Dear God,


Thank you for the gift of marriage and the opportunity to share our lives with our spouses. Help us to remember the importance of open and honest communication in our relationships and give us the courage to be vulnerable with one another. Help us to set aside dedicated time for communication, and to seek help if needed. Above all, help us to remember that our spouse is our partner and ally, and to treat them with love, respect, and understanding.


In Your name, we pray, Amen.

"The Lie of Resentment: Letting Go of Past Hurts and Pain" (Colossians 3:13)

When we hold onto resentment and refuse to forgive, it can feel like we are in control. We might think that by holding onto our anger and pain, we are protecting ourselves and getting revenge on the person who wronged us. However, the reality is that resentment and unforgiveness only end up hurting us more in the long run.


Colossians 3:13 says, "Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you." This verse reminds us that forgiveness is not optional for followers of Christ. It is a command.


But forgiveness is often easier said than done. It can be difficult to let go of past hurts and pain, especially when the wound is still fresh. We might feel justified in our anger and resentment, and letting go can feel like we are giving the other person a "free pass" for their wrong actions.


However, holding onto resentment and refusing to forgive is not only harmful to our well-being, but it also goes against what God calls us to do. When we refuse to forgive, we are essentially saying that we know better than God and that we have the right to hold onto our anger and pain.


But the truth is that forgiveness is not about the other person. It is about us and our own hearts. When we choose to forgive, we are choosing to let go of the pain and hurt that have been weighing us down. We are choosing to release the other person from the debt they owe us, just as God has released us from the debt we owed him through Jesus' death on the cross.


Forgiveness is not easy, and it is not a one-time decision. It is a daily choice to let go of resentment and choose love and grace instead. It might take time and effort, but the freedom and peace that come from forgiveness are worth it.


Prayer:


Heavenly Father, I confess that I have been holding onto resentment and unforgiveness towards (name). I have been allowing anger and pain to consume me, and it has been weighing me down.

I know that You command me to forgive as You have forgiven me, and I want to obey You. But I need your help. I cannot do this on my own.


Please give me the strength and courage to let go of this resentment and choose forgiveness. Help me to see (name) through Your eyes and to extend grace and love towards them, just as You have done for me.

I trust in Your goodness and sovereignty, and I know that You can bring good out of even the most difficult situations. Help me to trust in You and to find peace and freedom in forgiveness.


In Jesus' name, Amen.

"The Lie of Comparison: Embracing Our Unique Identities and Differences in Marriage" (1 Corinthians 7:34)

In 1 Corinthians 7:34, Paul writes, "An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord's affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife."


At first glance, this verse might seem to suggest that there is a difference between the concerns of single and married people. But upon closer examination, we see that Paul is highlighting the unique identities and differences that each individual brings to a marriage.


It is natural for us to compare ourselves to others, and this is especially true in marriage. We might compare our spouse's strengths and weaknesses to our own, or compare our relationship to those of others. But this tendency to compare can be damaging to our marriages and our own sense of identity.


When we compare ourselves to others, we tend to focus on what we lack rather than on what we have. This can lead to feelings of inadequacy and insecurity, which can poison our relationships and undermine our happiness.


But the truth is that we are all unique and have different strengths, weaknesses, and purposes in life. God created us each with a specific plan and purpose in mind, and we must embrace our unique identities rather than trying to be someone we are not.


In marriage, we must celebrate and appreciate the differences between us rather than try to change our spouse into someone they are not. These differences can be a source of strength and growth in our relationship.


So the next time you find yourself comparing yourself or your relationship to others, remember that God has created you and your spouse with a specific purpose and plan in mind. Embrace your unique identities and differences, and trust that God has a purpose for your marriage that is greater than anything you could imagine.



Prayer:


Heavenly Father, thank you for creating each of us with a unique identity and purpose. Help us to embrace our differences and celebrate the unique qualities that make us who we are. Guard us against the temptation to compare ourselves to others, and instead give us the strength to trust in your plan for our lives and our marriages. In your name, we pray,  


This I pray in Jesus’ name, Amen

"The Lie of Insecurity: Finding Our Worth and Identity in Christ" (Ephesians 1:4)

Insecurity is something that we all struggle with at some point in our lives. It can be a nagging feeling of not being good enough or not measuring up to other people's standards. It can manifest itself in various ways, such as a lack of confidence in our abilities, a fear of failure, or a constant need for validation from others.


But the truth is that our worth and identity are not based on what we do or what others think of us. Ephesians 1:4 tells us, "For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight." This verse reminds us that we are loved and accepted by God just as we are, and that our worth and identity are found in Him.


God's love for us is not based on our performance or our appearance. It is a love that is unconditional and everlasting. We can find comfort in knowing that we are accepted and valued by God, no matter what others may think or say.


So how can we combat the lie of insecurity and find our worth and identity in Christ? Here are a few steps to consider:


Spend time in prayer and in God's Word. When we seek God and His truth, we can better understand our worth and identity as His children.


Surround yourself with supportive and encouraging people. Find friends and mentors who will lift you up and remind you of your worth and identity in Christ.


Practice gratitude. Focusing on the things we are thankful for can help us to see the good in ourselves and in our lives.


Remember that we are all imperfect and that mistakes are a normal part of life. Instead of dwelling on our failures or shortcomings, we can look to God's grace and His promise to work all things for our good (Romans 8:28).


Seek out opportunities to serve and help others. When we focus on serving and blessing others, we can find a sense of purpose and fulfillment that helps us to see our own worth and value.




Prayer:


Dear God,


I confess that I often struggle with feelings of insecurity. I worry about what others think of me and I fear that I am not good enough. But I know that my worth and identity are found in You. I pray that You would help me to trust in Your love and acceptance, and that You would give me the strength and confidence to live out my identity as Your child.


Thank You for choosing me and for loving me just as I am. Help me to remember that my value is not based on what I do or what others think of me, but on who I am in You.


In Jesus' name, Amen.


"The Lie of Disunity: Pursuing Unity and Oneness in Marriage" (Genesis 2:24)

Genesis 2:24 states, "Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh." This verse is often used in wedding ceremonies to symbolize the union and oneness that marriage brings. However, it's easy for couples to get caught up in the day-to-day challenges and conflicts of life and lose sight of this unity and oneness.


One lie that can threaten unity and oneness in marriage is the lie of disunity. This lie tells us that it's impossible for two people with different backgrounds, personalities, and perspectives to truly come together as one. It tells us that we will always have different goals and desires and that we must choose between our own needs and those of our spouse.


But the truth is that unity and oneness in marriage are possible, and they are essential for a healthy and thriving relationship. Ephesians 4:3 says, "Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace." This verse reminds us that unity is something we must actively pursue and maintain, rather than something that comes naturally or effortlessly.


So how can we pursue unity and oneness in marriage? Here are a few practical steps:


Communicate openly and honestly with your spouse. It's important, to be honest about your feelings, needs, and desires and to listen to your spouse's perspective as well. This can help you understand each other's needs and work towards finding solutions that meet both of your needs.


Practice forgiveness. When conflicts and misunderstandings arise, it's important to choose forgiveness and let go of grudges. This doesn't mean that you have to forget what happened, but it does mean that you choose to let go of bitterness and resentment and work towards rebuilding trust and unity with your spouse.


Seek out resources and support. It's okay to admit that you need help in your marriage, and seeking out resources such as couples counseling or reading books on marriage can be incredibly helpful in strengthening your relationship.


Prioritize your spouse's needs. It's easy to get caught up in our agendas and priorities, but it's important to remember that your spouse's needs are just as important as your own. Make an effort to put your spouse's needs first, and be willing to compromise and make sacrifices when necessary.


Pray together. Prayer can be a powerful way to bring unity and oneness to your marriage. Spend time praying together, asking God to guide and strengthen your relationship.


In conclusion, the lie of disunity can be tempting, but it's important to remember that unity and oneness in marriage are possible and essential for a healthy and thriving relationship. By actively pursuing unity, communicating openly and honestly, practicing forgiveness, seeking out resources and support, and prioritizing your spouse's needs, you can work towards a marriage that is built on love, trust, and oneness.



Prayer:


Heavenly Father, we thank you for the gift of marriage and the unity and oneness it brings. We know that this unity and oneness are not always easy to achieve, and we ask for your guidance and strength as we work towards building a strong and healthy relationship. Help us to communicate openly and honestly, to practice forgiveness, and to prioritize our spouse's needs. We pray that you will bring unity and oneness to our marriage and that you will help us seek out resources and support when needed. We also pray that you will give us the courage and determination to pursue unity and oneness in our marriage, even when it's difficult. Thank you for your love and grace towards us, and we trust in your guidance and provision for our marriage. 


In Jesus' name, Amen.